Hilary Grossman

Dangled Carat


Dangled Carat - One girl's attempt to convert a commitment-phobic man into a doting husband with a lot of help from his family and friends is lighthearted, contemporary, and funny! Chick lit readers will be hooked - for fans of Jen Lancaster, Sophie Kinsella and Emily Giffin

For every girl who wondered if she should love him or dump him.....

For every girl who listened to her heart instead of her friends advice....

For every girl who l wondered if she was wasting her time dating that guy....

meet Hilary....

She had gotten used to dating the commitment-phobic Marc, thirteen years her senior. They had a great relationship--why rush into things? She saw no need to pressure him for marriage, believing that when the time was right, he would propose. But after they had been together for four years, their friends decided to take matters into their own hands, pushing Marc to propose and making Hilary realize how much she really did want to marry the man that she loved. Unfortunately, Marc still wasn't ready--and their friends' meddling in the form of a faux engagement party led to a disastrous New Year's Eve that brought their relationship to an inevitable turning point.

For anyone who has ever dated a commitment-phobe, who has found their patience wearing thin with the one they love, or who has sat around wondering if he is ever going to pop the question while trying to remain the very picture of patience and grace, Hilary's humorous and honest story will hit home.

Praise for Dangled Carat:

"Dangled Carat sparkles with humor and shines with wisdom. It is a gem of a book.” - Christina Baker Kline - New York Times Best Selling Author of Orphan Train.

Author Bio

Hilary Grossman dated a guy so commitment-phobic that she was able to write a book about their relationship.  She has an unhealthy addiction to denim and shoes. She loves to find humor in every day life.  And she likens life to a game of dodgeball - she tries to keep many balls in the air before they smack her in the face. When she isn't writing or blogging she is the CFO of a beverage alcohol importer.  She lives on Long Island.


Can you tell us a little more of what your book is about?

Dangled Carat is about my attempt to convert a commitment phobic man into a doting husband with a lot of help from his family and friends.  It features a cast of characters that only real life can create. It is a funny yet tender and emotional coming of age story.  It will make you laugh and cry. It is an honest look about what goes on in one’s head during a difficult relationship.

What are you hoping the reader takes from your book?

I think that at some point in time every girl has wondered if she should love him or dump him.  Let's face it, if you date you will have drama.  Relationships are not easy.  They hardly ever progress according to our plans. And for better or worse, when we are the ones involved, we see things differently than the rest of the world.  This is especially true if you are in a relationship with a commitment-phobe like I was.

I decided to share my story in the the hopes that I could help other women realize they were not alone. It's a very difficult position to be in.  Your friends and family constantly offer well intended advice, but you are left questioning your every thought and action.  I shared the good, the bad, and the ugly.  I'm sure you probably will want to shake the characters a couple of times!  But that is real life... it's messy - but it's also very funny! I've learned the hard way that we never fully understand a situation until we live it.  And that is why when in doubt, I recommend following your heart...

When did the idea for the book come to you?

I’ve been telling my story for years.  So many people, it turns out, can relate to it.  Dating a commitment-phobic man is more common than you think 🙂  As I shared my story, I was told the same thing over and over - my story would make a good book.  Since I always dreamt about writing a book, these comments were music to my ears.  I started to blog about five years ago as practice. Then immediately after attending a conference about turning a blog into a book I decided to stop dreaming and start writing.

Have you always wanted to be a writer?

Yes, but I never thought I would actually become one. When I held my copy of Dangled Carat for the first time I cried like a baby. It was such a surreal feeling realizing a lifetime dream...

What were your career plans as a child? 

Better question would probably be what did I not want to do. As a child I changed my career aspirations as often as I changed clothes. I wanted to be a teacher, an actress, a soap opera writer, a talk show host, a wall paper designer, a fashion designer, a lawyer, a police woman, a news reporter, an author, a greeting card designer, a store owner, a waitress.. I could go on and on....

Where do you write? 

Usually I write at home, but I can write anywhere... I actually started my second book on an airplane traveling from New York to Chicago

Is this your ideal location or is there some other place you would love to be while you write?

I am very lucky. I live on the beach, so often times I am staring at the ocean as I type. It is the ideal location to write.

What gives you inspiration for your writing?

I am a huge people watcher. I love observing others while trying to figure out what makes people tick.  The things I see and experience is what inspires me.

If you could have dinner with any author who would it be and why?

I would pick Jen Lancaster.  I find her hysterically funny and she is my favorite author. But more so than that I would like to have dinner with her so that I can thank her. I hate to admit this, but before I read her book, Bitter Is The New Black, I didn’t know what a blog or a memoir was.  Her book motivated me to start writing and stop dreaming. I created by blog a week after finishing the book.

Give us one pet hate or guilty pleasure...Or both!

My biggest pet peeve is people who leave one square of toilet paper on the roll rather than changing it. My guilty pleasure is I can’t be on the phone without scrolling on social media.

Share one random fact about yourself

I can write with both hands and when I was younger I was able to write with my foot.

What's next?

In the next few months, I will be publishing my second book. This one is a novel.  It is about a mother and daughter whose relationship was basically destroyed by secrets, lies and misplaced blame and has a very chick lit twist.

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